Saturday, 6 February 2010

Social Networking

As most people do, throughout my near 30 years on this planet, I've gone through many changes. I've done the partying, and now I'm ready to settle down and have a nice calm life. Please be warned, when I say settling down, I'm not particularly speaking about marriage and the likes. I'm not one of those women who at 30 worry about eggs drying up and then run around like a headless chicken looking for any man who might impregnate me and then marry me by shotgun ceremony.
I mean, I'm over the party, I've over a crowd of sweaty people bumping into me, spilling my coveted alcoholic beverage and trying to wine up on me. I'm much happier in a setting where I can engage in adult (no not the xxx variety) conversation, laugh and talk with real friends while sharing copious bottles of wine between us.


The thing is I'm not the biggest fan of people. So maybe I prefer to do this while alone on my chaise lounge where I can get up and head to a clean bathroom with no line, not have to comb my hair or help myself be a bit better looking with makeup, or dress in any particular way. Maybe I prefer to drink from the comfort of my home where I can check on my farm, organise my mafia, and not have to reply to the conversation right away. Maybe I like it that BRB can take you an hour with no annoyance from the person on the other end of the wireless world.

What I don't want is the barrage of friend requests that come along with the lovely virtual world.
If I'm not trying to make friends in the real world, why on earth would I want to make them virtually? But it is easier to "ignore" or "delete" the offender online.

What I don't get is why people who refuse to talk to you in a real world setting, passing you on the street, sitting next to you at the wine bar, behind you in line at the bank, whatever, will then send you a friend request and then not understand when they're not being taken on. If I won't share my wine with you in real life, chances are I won't be willing to share it virtually while discussing the movie we're all looking at together, yet separately.

Is it wrong to be more open to networking socially? Does it make you more introverted and hermit like? The latter possibly, but I've found that people will spill many a bean when they don't have to look you in the eye. I don't like beans all that much. I just want a nice quiet life where I can romance a good bottle of wine, without being bothered by mindless chatter that I have to respond to right away and keep a straight face while I do so. So when I do leave the shelter of my home, I give thanks that I have a small but smart and funny and trustworthy group of people I can call friends, and tolerate few others that I have to for whatever reason. Just don't expect me to tolerate the few in my happy little virtual world.