Friday, 27 August 2010

a "good" man

Facebook is going to be my bread and butter for this blog!

So my FB friend had up a status that reads "Today’s PSA - When a good man wants you take HIM , Don’t brush him off hoping to get a better man , because he might be the last one".  Hmmmmmm

So I ask, what  exactly is wrong with being alone, and i get the response "i have 2 words, "old maid".


This kind of archaic thinking is rather irritating. I mean you don't usually see a woman saying ...hey dude, you better take that good woman cause she may be the last one and you don't want to end up an old butler... (unless your friend's last name is Butler and you want them to live to a ripe old age).

What madness is this really. So women must take this "good man" on because someone considers him a good man it means we all will, or that he actually is one...otherwise we might just brush him off and end up alone with a couple cats (not of the lesbian variety). Because why? I think this is actually one of the major reasons that people end up in a stagnant unhappy marriage, where they end up cheating or doing whatever for excitement, to dull the depression of being stuck with someone who isn't right for them. We gotta stop getting hung up on the "good man" thing. As far as I'm concerned, there isn't a "good man/mr right" just a man who is right for you.

Anyway back to the double standard statement. Apparently if you don't have a man you have failed as a woman, much worse as a human. People, seriously? You need to be happy in your own company before you can be happy in someone else's. So if you need to latch on to this "good man" because you live in fear of having to entertain're not actually ready for him.

Guess what? He may not be the last one, and just because he's considered good, doesn't mean he's the right man for you. You ever thought that maybe just maybe you may not be meant to be Mrs somethingortheother? It's not all mapped out in stone that we all have to be "together". Hell people are always going on about the "lifelong bachelor" George Clooney, and are all gushing about it. But a woman can't be a lifelong bachelorette?

I'm not saying that you need to be alone, or not be receptive to a relationship, but for fuck's sake you don't have to take the first open spot in the parking lot because the mall is full and you're worried you may not find another space. Hell if you take the time to perhaps drive around once more, you might just find the perfect spot that you hadn't actually noticed was there for you before.

I'm just saying....

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